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The Love They Lost: Living with the Legacy of Our Parents' Divorce #2020

The Love They Lost Living with the Legacy of Our Parents Divorce Our Review Divorce writes Stephanie Staal has taken on the social proportions of a Great Depression She s right Divorce has become the defining shift of our generation We live within its limits For

  • Title: The Love They Lost: Living with the Legacy of Our Parents' Divorce
  • Author: Stephanie Staal
  • ISBN: 9780385334105
  • Page: 424
  • Format: Paperback
  • The Love They Lost: Living with the Legacy of Our Parents' Divorce By Stephanie Staal, Our Review Divorce, writes Stephanie Staal, has taken on the social proportions of a Great Depression She s right Divorce has become the defining shift of our generation We live within its limits For us, divorce is not an isolated trauma, but a terminal recognition of love s boundaries Staal s journalistic memoir, The Love They Lost, considers the experience of tOur Review Divorce, writes Stephanie Staal, has taken on the social proportions of a Great Depression She s right Divorce has become the defining shift of our generation We live within its limits For us, divorce is not an isolated trauma, but a terminal recognition of love s boundaries Staal s journalistic memoir, The Love They Lost, considers the experience of this divorce generation through a collection of stories and reflections She offers few statistical analyses of divorce s mean toll instead, Staal illuminates the breadth of our experience by comparing a wide variety of responses to divorced family life Those of us who have lived through divorce can t possibly squeeze the light and shadow of our lives into a model, explains Staal We long for stories, not theory We crave a forum to share our experiences, not open them up for judgment The Love They Lost provides that forum for all of us who have grown up in divorce In it, Staal connects the observations of than 100 adult children of divorce, knitting their stories into a wide net of experience Within this collection of stories, Staal also includes her own, personal account of divorce In clean, unaffected prose, she pieces together the memories that record her shift into the divorced world birthday cakes and station wagons along with barely perceptible chills in the family mood She remembers watching her parents stake out personal territories within their shared house She recounts the disaster of her mother s affair and her own attempts to patch her parents torn marriage Together with the memories of other divorced children, Staal s story provides one example of the variety of responses we have to divorce We may become unfailingly independent We may become emotional adventurers, or seekers of comfort Like Staal, each divorced child has her own ways of overcoming fear.By placing her own story next to so many others, Staal also discovers how we move beyond the limits of divorce As each interview subject explains his own path, readers are able to appreciate the variety of perspectives that divorced children develop By exploring our fears and where they come from, Staal explains, we take the first step toward viewing love on our own terms, and not the terms set by our parents Reading The Love They Lost offers an exploration of the boundaries imposed on the divorce generation and a means of moving past them.

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    1. This is the perfect selection for those who are seeking healing from their parents divorce but do not desire modern self help, psychological mumbo jumbo resources This book is filled with stories and that is what sets it apart from others The author writes beautiful, but tragic narratives of her childhood to adulthood experiences She mirrors it with others who have experienced the shaking of their foundations as their parents parted ways, sometimes violently and bitterly, other times smoothly an [...]

    2. Absolutely amazing point of view of the child s side of a divorce, and a must read for divorced divorcing parents This book is only 243 pages, and I devoured it in an afternoon.The author gives an honest, accessible and unflinching account of what it s like for children who have no choice in a divorce, but must live through the aftermath regardless This book is a must read for any parent at any stage of a divorce, especially for parents who were not products of divorce themselves to be able to u [...]

    3. This is not a self help book in the conventional sense i.e it s not written by someone with a mental health qualification Rather, it s a collection of recollections and musings by adults, years after their parents divorced Structure is provided partly by the semi memoir thoughts of the author on her parents divorce and her life thereafter IMO, its non clinical approach makes it easier to relate to.

    4. I wish I would have known about this book years ago This was a book I started reading for a research paper I did It is close to my heart I found solace in it after going through the rollercoaster of emotions since my parent s divorce No matter what age you are, your parent s divorce has an affect on you, especially when they were married for many years and truly loved each other at one time It helps to know other s out there feel what you feel and this book proves it Its a helpful book.

    5. Nothing earth shattering but a useful read for adult children of divorce, particularly, I think, people like me who have spent their lives saying Oh, I wasn t affected by my parents divorce and then realize that it all takes on a different light as we our approach our own relationships, monogamy, and thoughts on marriage and kids.

    6. I m about halfway through this book and it s like someone is finally telling me after almost 30 years of trying to understand why I struggle in the simplest and most basic of ways Thank you to the author for this truly eye opening, life changing, and hope inducing work.

    7. Even though I am just going through this as an adult, this book helped me to understand some of what is going on in my head and in my parents Thanks.

    8. blah blah blah good to read other accounts of divorced families and how things affect everyone Not really a happy book.

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